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It seems as though some of you do not like my direct and truthful replies.
The truth may hurt but if your advertising your situation on the internet, what do you expect?
If I ask for an opinion, I hope someone tells me their truthful option, not some fluff. Hearing it from someone else might give that person a different perspective.
If I was in a bad situation and decided to do something that would make it worse I would hope to GOD that whomever I told would kick me in the butt and get me back on track...I don't care if I know you or not. I opened my situation so now I must respect your feedback.
The truth may hurt but if your advertising your situation on the internet, what do you expect?
If I ask for an opinion, I hope someone tells me their truthful option, not some fluff. Hearing it from someone else might give that person a different perspective.
If I was in a bad situation and decided to do something that would make it worse I would hope to GOD that whomever I told would kick me in the butt and get me back on track...I don't care if I know you or not. I opened my situation so now I must respect your feedback.
24 Comments for "MM"
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of course you can be honest, but maybe it is just a coincidence, but you were pretty harsh in your admonitions of NickNoah on her thread about money matters and then days later you were particularly harsh about her mattress post. It seemed to me that you were still angry about the money post and are "slamming" her again. Maybe it is just a coincidence and you would have written the same thing about the mattress if it were posted by someone else....
also- there are ways of being direct but not rude. I think when it comes to writing about our political views and opinions we (at least I can) get a bit snarky and petulant, but when it comes to parenting matters, I do try to be more tactful and considerate of the OP.
Just some thoughts....
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I think you can also prove your point without being seen as rude either. The next time you might seek advice, no one might be willing to give it considering the tone of some of your replies.
Its all in the presentation....and being on the internet its hard to distinguish between sincerity, rudeness, being sarcastic, joking etc. Do I agree with some of the things you posted? Sure, but I don't agree with how disrespectful some of it has been either.
If you dish it out, just don't be surprised that people are offended. -
[quote=skatemom]
If you dish it out, just don't be surprised that people are offended. [/quote]
Sure but it does go both ways...if they dish out their life online they should not be surprised when they receive honest and, at times, criticizing feedback.
I don't and can't surround myself around certain people because they might do things that I feel very strongly about. I can control who I do and do not see in person, not online. I always tell it like it is, ALWAYS and I do apoligize when it comes off harsh as it often does but I am a person who has a very difficult time sugar coating things. I feel there is no need to beat around the bush.
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[quote=corporate mommy]
Sure but it does go both ways...if they dish out their life online they should not be surprised when they receive honest and, at times, criticizing feedback.
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I didn't see the mattress post so I can't comment on that but if the OP on the bankrupcy post thought that she wouldn't get any criticism whatso ever, I think she is a bit naive. Here is a person that is making bad decisions and not taking the blame - decisions that impact all of us to some degree and we're all supposed to be nicey nicey and suppotive. Sorry, I couldn't do it. The only difference between Corporate Mommy and me is that I didn't bother posting because I knew it would fall on deaf ears.
I can totally appreciate using a respectful tone etc but sometimes, people just need to be smacked upside the head. -
[quote=Helen]
I didn't see the mattress post so I can't comment on that but if the OP on the bankrupcy post thought that she wouldn't get any criticism whatso ever, I think she is a bit naive. Here is a person that is making bad decisions and not taking the blame - decisions that impact all of us to some degree and we're all supposed to be nicey nicey and suppotive. Sorry, I couldn't do it. The only difference between Corporate Mommy and me is that I didn't bother posting because I knew it would fall on deaf ears.
I can totally appreciate using a respectful tone etc but sometimes, people just need to be smacked upside the head.[/quote]
MY POINT EXACTLY!! THANK YOU!!!!
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Example:
CM :
"If my parents bought me the cheapest and thinnest (and probably most uncomfortable) mattress, I'd pee and poop on it too." (quote from the mattress thread)
Instead it could have been....."I would really watch out for those cheap mattresses because they might not be too comfortable and your child might have a difficult time sleeping".
Still gets the same point of it being uncomfortable without it being protrayed as rude.
eta Note: CM's response was to the same poster who posted her bankruptcy/financial issues and not being responsible, so when she was trying to go cheap, she got ridiculed for it. -
The thing is CM, is that she didn't ask your opinion on her financial situatiuon, she asked what your husbands do for work. You came back and slammed her for filing twice.
Also, she didn't ask to you be rude when she is looking for a cheap mattress, there was no reason for you to bring up her money post as all.
You do seem to be following her on the boards, it seems as you have a snotty comment for anything she has to say.
If you go back and read your old posts, 99% of them are rude, negative and you really have not given anything to this board. You give your opinion, not advice.
Maybe if you would actually put some postitve good advice, people wouldn't feel like you are a bad egg on this board.
Again, "treat people as you want to be treated and if you have nothing noce to say, don't say anything at all"
And maybe you are having some issues in your life, but please don't take it out on the rest of us who are happy and nice to others.
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[quote=sasi02]The thing is CM, is that she didn't ask your opinion on her financial situatiuon, she asked what your husbands do for work. You came back and slammed her for filing twice.
Also, she didn't ask to you be rude when she is looking for a cheap mattress, there was no reason for you to bring up her money post as all.
Again, "treat people as you want to be treated and if you have nothing noce to say, don't say anything at all"
And maybe you are having some issues in your life, but please don't take it out on the rest of us who are happy and nice to others.
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1) Many people slammed her for filing twice
2) I did not bring up money in her mattress post, she is the only who said it was $39
3) I am treating people and I would like to be treated (please read my original post)
4) Don't assume anything about my life. That is being rude. -
[quote=corporate mommy]
1) Many people slammed her for filing twice
2) I did not bring up money in her mattress post, she is the only who said it was $39
3) I am treating people and I would like to be treated (please read my original post)
4) Don't assume anything about my life. That is being rude.[/quote]
For the record, I am pretty sure she has NOT file twice, only that her dh was considering it. -
Let's be positive and I don't think it's polite to be talking about her like this.
Let's think about more important, spiritually uplifting things, shall we?
I love living life! -
Corporate Mommy:
I get your point. But the sugary sarcasm isn't necessary. Nobody has asked for the conversation here to be only sweet and uplifting.
I prefer bluntness and honesty tempered with respect. The key is not to go out of your way to be hostile or inflamatory.
These boards should be a place where everyone feels comfortable to state their opinion or ask others' advice, knowing that if someone disagrees with them, they'll say so without an extra dose of hostility. Do you think that's asking too much?
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Corporate Mommy you can paint it any way you like, but you were trolling her posts after awhile. While I agree that sometimes a tactful truth needs to be put out there, I don't agree with searching out posts from over a month ago to make further commentary. It was plainly RUDE and put out there for DRAMA purposes only. It's one thing to be full of rainbows and sunshine, and it's definitely another thing to become a posting renegade. JMHO.
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My dearest Sports_Chick-thank you so much for your "HO" however I find your post a bit rude; assuming that I was trolling her posts. Unless there is a rule that I cannot go on a thread that another member of this website was on, I am pretty sure I was not trolling her posts.
I think your post, that came from no where since you were not involved or did not respond to any other post regarding this issue is rude and for your drama purposes only.
Again, thank you so much for your opinion. Have a wonderful day!! -
Corporate Mommy- you're continually crossing the unwritten line between critical and downright snarky. We all have our snarky moments (ahem, me included), but honestly you are making no friends here. We all read these posts sooner or later and whether we respond or not doesn't really matter. You're pretty much offending us as a whole at this point. Sports_Chick is a long-time member of this board and certainly can comment on your wide open commentary if she pleases.
Maybe you should take a break from posting for a while and come back when you have something more to contribute than sugary sarcasm and condescension. We haven't had this much drama here in a long time and It's all coming from your posts.
Full disclosure: I, too came down pretty hard on NickNoah...'s bankruptcy post, but I stand by my remarks and I did add helpful websites. I was definitely trying to keep from sounding snotty, just critical.
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