My husband and I just moved up here in May. We have a 2 1/2 yr old and a 10mo old. Before we moved hubby was in the Marines, and yea the pay wasn't amazing, but we made it. Now that we are here he is working a job that pays barely over minimum wage, and we are having to stay with his Dad. His dad's house is smaller than most people's basements...lol We are packed in here like sardines, and my 2yr old is seriously acting out. She started acting out about the time that hubby decided that he wasn't going to re-enlist and that we were moving to his home. I didn't take this very well, so I think I am to blame for some of her acting out. She was able to tell that Mommy was really stressed about this, so she got really stressed as well. Now that we have bounced around from family member to family member we managed to stumble upon a house that the owner was giving it away because it had a fire two weeks before, and he didn't want to deal with fixing it up. Well the fire damaged area is the least of the problems, but we are working to fix it up piece by piece. What is actually going on is that with everything being so very out of control, and my 2yr old acting out even worse than ever I am at a loss. I run a home-based business, but with living in my father-in-laws house while we are fixing ours up...I can't babyproof! I feel like I am constantly telling her no...don't touch that...leave that alone...don't hit your sister, and just constantly calling her down! I don't get a break if hubby is home he is either "getting ready to leave and go work on our house", or has to go to the bathroom...I mean I get excuse after excuse...when he gets home from work he doesn't want to be bothered because he just got off of work, but can't seem to understand that the only time I get a break is when they are napping and most of the time that is a chore to get them to nap! I have been pretty much stuck in the house due to finances for quite a while, but have really been pushing my home-based business the last few months, and have starting growing my business. Before anyone asks yes most of his family is in the area, but my mil cancels a lot. I quit getting my 2yr olds hopes up until she is literally on the way to pick her up, but I need a break!! I can tell that my overwhelming stress level is affecting me, my children, and my parenting! My sister-in-law has volunteered to let my 2yr old take a vacation to her house to play with her 2 kids while I try to get some help with coping with everything being so out of control. My life hasn't been this out of my control, since I was a kid! My oldest has only spent one day away from me at the most, but I am worried that I am losing control of me with being so stressed that even I am becoming out of control! I am very untrusting of psych doctors (childhood experience...nothing disturbing, but confidientiality was not kept when it should have been), so I am really scared to just pick one out and make an appointment not to mention the cost, but I need help coping with this stress and getting back some kind of control! I know I will never be the perfect parent, but I want to be the best I can for my kids! I know that not everything can be in my control, but I need help on how to deal with the things that should be...well not being. I can't say where they can play with their toys, nor when. My father in law is trying to be very understanding of the situation, and that none of us are happy living like this. My oldest is use to having her own room and a play area filled with toys, so going from that to just 5-6 toys, and can only play with one at a time is a drastic change, but the house is extremely small, and more than one or two small toys and the entire living room is completely overrun! The house we are fixing up is about 3X the sqft of his dad's house plus a basement, so once we are able to move into there she will have space again. Does anyone know of any programs or anything that can help me deal with her acting out and my stress level! I feel like I am constantly on edge, and can't relax. We are about a month away from being able to move into our house, so stability is in sight. I want to try and figure out how to handle the stress better, so that when difficult situations arise I am not letting it affect everything around me! Thanks for your help and sorry so long!